tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post5296752487964998092..comments2009-08-12T18:35:54.709-07:00anymommyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17870033179328734404anymommyoutthere@gmail.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-90592065487356147492009-08-12T18:35:54.709-07:002009-08-12T18:35:54.709-07:00I really like what you have to say.<br />I wanted to invite you and everyone else to check out my page The Color of Family on Facebook. We are a group of transracial families, dedicated to educating and supporting each other. You&#39;ll find a link on my blogspot. :)ThanksTashahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11166191956849229833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-9836602418342071832009-06-02T10:15:28.445-07:002009-06-02T10:15:28.445-07:00stumbled across your blog today and have been hooked...reading post after post when really I should be mopping dog poop off my entry way floor b/c my in laws are coming to babysit tonight. (Hi I am Crystal. I tell it like it is). <br />Anyway, I have 3 kids ages 5, 3 and almost 2... loved your costco post... totally been there. I wonder, do people often take kids that aren't theirs grocery shopping for fun? B/c I too get asked that question and wonder if it is common to bring a gaggle of kids that aren't yours on errands. <br /><br />Anyway, your adoption posts have hooked me. I keep clicking on one right after the other. My husband and I have been doing lots of talking about whether we want to grow our family to four. We aren't on the same page yet. But one think we have also talked at length about is adoption. We both have a heart for adoption. I don't know if we will go down that road or not. It's something I think about almost every day. I appreciated your honest, real posts about your stories. They are hard to find. Thanks for reaching out!LifeAtTheCircus.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07707823906597511600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-78910758737222527292009-02-28T08:09:00.000-08:002009-02-28T08:09:00.000-08:00Found this through your Screaming Baby post on Betty. My husband (Indian) and I (very white) are adopting a baby from Rwanda to join our two (obviously mixed) children. So exciting, scary, etc. Thanks for your post and I look forward to combing through your blog for insight, or just truthful thoughts!<BR/><BR/>It has recently hit me that though we're adopting an African baby, we will be raising an African-American boy....<BR/><BR/>We'll see how I fill in those dots!Susiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09063029032695060303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-71237169168639722332008-10-21T12:14:00.000-07:002008-10-21T12:14:00.000-07:00It's really hard to put the 'good stuff' out there, isn't it? Yet, it's ultimately what bonds us, what makes us real to others so that we can find and form those friendships. Congrats for being so brave.Mom24http://www.blogger.com/profile/00061152728345287775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-81115093713647660822008-06-12T11:54:00.000-07:002008-06-12T11:54:00.000-07:00I just found your blog and wanted to comment on this post. You went through a tough time and it seems like all of you came through it well.<BR/><BR/>I too am a mother of a transracially adopted child (China) and we are now considering adopting from Africa. Its nice to know that there are other families out there like mine.reneedesignshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09248657031971456469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-37402895119060572232008-06-07T13:00:00.000-07:002008-06-07T13:00:00.000-07:00Hi, I just had to comment on this post. I have been where you were in this and know how hard it is. I also know that there is peace that comes when you do what is best for the child and your family. Ours was different circumstances that caused the disruption, but it is still the same emotions. I was inspired to write on my adoption feelings today on my blog. Maybe one day soon I will stick my neck out and share more. Glad to have met you on here, looking forward to shareing more stories!<BR/><BR/>PamPamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01786437981693413906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-78972407146211033802008-06-05T15:40:00.000-07:002008-06-05T15:40:00.000-07:00Your blog is wonderful, and your kids adorable. It's nice to see other families that look like mine. It's a rare thing.Heatherwww.babymakesthree-sf.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-38747584791360284282008-06-03T21:30:00.000-07:002008-06-03T21:30:00.000-07:00I think it is important to put our stories out there. Kudos for taking a risk to being sharing a vulnerable part of your story.heatherhttp://unproductivereproduction.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-88962819967771632412008-05-27T20:49:00.000-07:002008-05-27T20:49:00.000-07:00The only thing that made it possible at all was the family that adopted him. I'm in awe of them.<BR/><BR/>After all of this, I've realized that it was selfish too. And that's okay, I think. You have to be selfish to make these kind of decisions. You have to be realistic about what you can handle and what your family can handle. Adoption itself has selfish motives - we wanted children!anymommyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17870033179328734404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-16122861498962695022008-05-27T16:31:00.000-07:002008-05-27T16:31:00.000-07:00i can't imagine how hard that was for you.chickadeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12839619836478423452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-42909393807549193962008-05-27T12:23:00.000-07:002008-05-27T12:23:00.000-07:00I'll be that was awfully painful for you. I can't imagine. Very brave of you to get it out there though..And selfless to let him go on to his new parents.that girlhttp://heyyourememberme.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-68611550398182662142008-05-27T06:35:00.000-07:002008-05-27T06:35:00.000-07:00I applaud your decisions, all of them - to adopt, transracial adoption, and even the very difficult decisions you had to make regarding your oldest. I, too, have adopted two transracial children and do worry about making the right decisions as they grow. We also had a child for two years that we were planning to adopt and then lost him (he was with us through foster care) so I can fully understand the pain you went through but knowing he is in a great place is a wonderful comfort to you.<BR/>You have a beautiful family and are doing great things for them.Pam Snoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-75415002143092810072008-05-26T15:36:00.000-07:002008-05-26T15:36:00.000-07:00And now you've said it. Let the conversation begin, even if it is just you getting out what most likely needs released. :) In my very short time blogging, I've found that even if there's not someone who's been in the exact same shoes, that the writing is what's helpful.<BR/><BR/>Just wondered to your blog, your children are beautiful.Awakehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13062430694807130926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-10050350177243060482008-05-26T13:20:00.000-07:002008-05-26T13:20:00.000-07:00Thank you. It's taken some distance, but I do feel as though we made the right decisions for everyone, including our older son.<BR/><BR/>Kateri - how wonderful! Congratulations. Ess came home at fourteen months and just in case I've scared you, she has bonded beautifully. It can be tough, though, in the beginning, don't feel alone.anymommyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17870033179328734404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-24040839301329761842008-05-26T08:53:00.000-07:002008-05-26T08:53:00.000-07:00Good for you for working toward the optimal solution for your precious boy. I can imagine the pain y'all endured both in dealing with his issues and in finding an answer. He is blessed to have had you!!katy (aka funny girl)kathrynsmoore.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-88633221130198607852008-05-25T18:57:00.000-07:002008-05-25T18:57:00.000-07:00Thank you for your honesty. We just brought our 20 month old daughter home from China last month and I have a lot to learn about transracial adoption. I'm glad that I found you through BeDesign as I've been enjoying your thoughts ever since. Keep it up! I really loved the post on judging mothers..lots of chuckles over that one, though I know that it wasn't and still isn't humorous to you.<BR/>Take care...and thanks!<BR/>KateriKateri Lambrosewww.thefiveofus.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-43609617936149370202008-05-25T18:33:00.000-07:002008-05-25T18:33:00.000-07:00brave! You are an amazing mom who made an impossible choice to try and find what was the best path for all of your children. (greetings from Bavaria;)phulmayahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12905920467303683131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5337254678704520655.post-83747349492292288462008-05-25T15:03:00.000-07:002008-05-25T15:03:00.000-07:00i suspect getting started is probably one of the hardest parts of talking about it. (((hugs)))zarafahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17467604440777727591noreply@blogger.com