The careful scene that replays in my mind at some vague date in my daughter's early teens is forever changed. Can we go there? Yes, we can. Could we find her? It's possible. We have her name, her picture, some information, I know there are people that help adoptees find information about their birth families. What is the answer now? I don't know. So many people lost. So many relocated. Records lost. Families and neighbors scattered.
Tragedies on this scale always create gripping human stories. Heros. Heartbreak. Hope and hopelessness. If you want to follow and support people on the ground, helping all they can, may I introduce Troy Livesay and his family and Dixie and John Bickel who run God's Littlest Angels orphanage in Petionville, Haiti. Both have been able to keep their blogs fairly current and Troy is twittering regular updates as of today.
If you have a child "in process" for adoption in Haiti and for some reason you haven't seen this information elsewhere, READ THIS.
If you want to donate, you probably already have and the Red Cross is an amazing first responder. If you want a long-standing, incredibly well-run organization that has been on the ground with Haiti's children for decades, give to God's Littlest Angels. Truth be told, I should have asked you to give to GLA two years ago. They do astonishing work. They cared for my daughter and for the little boy that was briefly ours for over a year. I lived there for three weeks in January 2005 as a volunteer and witnessed the hard work they do.
I didn't ask because I imagined that we all have our own causes, but now as the world focuses on Haiti, I am shamelessly making my suggestion. GLA was caring for 150 children in a difficult, unstable environment on Monday and their job is infinitely harder today. They have the experience, they have the resources, they are accepting cash donations and they are also accepting supplies at their Colorado Springs office. They have brought containers into Haiti many times in the past and whenever that becomes a viable option, they will do it again. Until they can bring in supplies, I know funds will be vital as available supplies in Haiti become even more expensive, processing adoptions are halted and children orphaned or displaced in the earthquake arrive at their gates.
The world has a huge heart, I know. The response to this kind of humanitarian disaster always humbles me. We do care. That doesn't change the fact that children were starving to death in Haiti on Monday. I am guilty of being willing to forget that knowledge, submerge it in the details of my every day life. All I can think is that if, after the rubble has been cleared and the injured aided and the dead buried and the water delivered, after the world's attention has shifted and the organizations that settle in for the long haul have hunkered down to rebuild, if this brief spotlight can have one tiny, positive outcome, let it be that an organization like GLA has the resources to continue caring for fragile children for two more decades and beyond.
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I've been looking through the album of my weeks as a volunteer. These are some of my favorites. I don't know why, just thought you might like to look with me.
Comfort. Stacey and Rosie 2005.

Anticipation under the orphanage gate 2005.

Crooked Presidential Palace 2005 (I have horizon issues).

Delivering rice with "the brothers" 2005.

Rice lines 2005.

Rice lines 2005.

Tugging heartstrings under the orphanage gate 2005.

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45 comments:
A beautifully loving post. I don't know what to say either. Just praying.
i donated. Mostly, because of YOU,
and that it was the right thing to do.
xxx
Beautiful post, and the photos are so... poignant? perhaps is the word. When I thought of your daughter and her birth mom, the future search didn't cross my mind... it is so hard to take in, in an enormous tragedy like this, all of the individual tragedies that it encompasses. it is just heart-breaking.
Wow. I heard Dixie interviewed on NPR today and was amazed at her composure. I've thought of you and Saige often these past few days.
Thank you for writing this Stacey.
In times like these, I feel awful for all that I have. I feel awful for complaiining that my children whine, that I don't get enough time to myself, that I have a faulty uterus that won't safely carry or deliver any more children.
It's times like these that I wish I was back to my twenty-something self, full of idealism and dreams and unencumbered so that I could travel there myself and bring some semblance of relief.
It's times like these, I'm glad that despite the horrid economy, our family is doing well enough that I can donate without batting an eye, and go to sleep with visions in my head, rather than spending sleepless nights wondering how to feed my own children while helping those that live so far away.
You are wonderful, and I love you beyond measure.
Wow. My girls and I are waiting for the dust to settle there... we want to sew things and send. I am thinking the orphanage (at some point) would be a perfect place. Pillow cases? I will e-mail you later to get other/better ideas.
Beautiful post. This is so heartbreaking.
Wow - I hadn't seen your photos before. Breathtaking. And thanks for letting us know about the agency you used.
The picture of the boys peeking underneath the gate.....breaking my heart.
You are so beautiful.
Thank you for the concrete hope in this post. I'll pass it along.
That last pic touches my heart and bring tears to my eyes.
i love looking with you. thanks so much for sharing.
i don't know how you went and didn't come home with all of them. you're such a good woman for being able to give of yourself like this.
i donated. already, and again because of you.
I'm in tears, woman. I barely know you, but I love your heart.
-elizabeth
awesome post, Stacey. Thanks for sharing those pictures, and your thoughts.
Beautiful post. Your pictures are so stirring. Thank you for telling us about GLA.
the lst picture really got me, those little faces and hands under the orphange gate. All so sad.......
no words, but thank you for sharing your thoughts and the photos.
xo
Those photos. . .breaking my heart. I also saw something on CNN last night about the orphans sitting in the open air, no shelter, worried that people will come in and steal their food/water. Oh, please, I hope we can get them into safe shelter soon. I feel so so so helpless.
I knew this would hit you even harder than the rest of us, but I didn't realize you'd spent time there.
Perhaps what will come out of this horror is a new start for Haiti....
A beautiful post from an beautiful woman. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, your hope and your pictures.
My heart breaks for the country.
You and Saige have been in my thoughts a lot lately, along with the many Haitians that are in need of assistance.
XOXO
My 10 year old crawled into bed with us this morning while Obama, Bush, and Clinton were on TV. He asked if they were talking about Haiti and then told me how he was sad that he only had $2 left in his piggy bank to give.
I looked over at my husband and he knew what I was thinking. How my heart aches to help one of those children, to spare them from the pain and bring them into loving arms again. I know we can't. But oh, the ache.
Thank you for giving me away that I can satisfy just a little bit of what my son and I need to do right now.
I donated immediately upon learning of the tragedy. I can't imagine the hell they are living with.
I have been wondering about you and thinking about you a lot. I can only imagine the complexity of emotion being in your situation. I'm so glad to know of a specific place "on the ground," as it were, to donate. Thank you for that. Sending you all good thoughts.
Beautiful Stacey. I've been thinking of you so much. It's all so heart-breaking.
When I left my comment at The Pioneer Woman, I listed Compassion International and GLA. It's a great organization.
Thanks for the information about God's Little Angels. You're filling a need for all of your readers to think about this crisis, to connect on a personal level, and to act.
I am so glad you posted this. My sons have a review blog and are about to begin a fundraising effort for the children in Haiti. They're donating their allowances for a month, and we're matching, and they're reaching out to their readership to do the same.
We were *just* discussing how we could find an children's charity to give to, and up popped your post in my reader. I think we have our answer.
THANK YOU. Me and my kids both thank you for this.
I don't know what to say either. Beautiful pics & beautiful post though.
Love you, hon.
I've donated. And I've prayed.
And I'll keep doing both.
Thank you for posting this. Love to both you and Saige during this time.
That last picture will haunt me. And I expect that your future tummy mommy conversations will involve maybes. And there is always hope in maybe.
Beautiful post and pictures. Thinking of all in Haiti right now and those with connections there also. We pray for your daughter's birth parents.
Costco is adding Red Cross donations to their register totals. The donation goes directly to the Haitian relief efforts. I have been to that store three times today. :-)
I'm stricken with tears over your photos and sadness over your words. I hope she's out there, but I'm happy Saige is safe with her mom and dad and away from such tragedy.
that last picture was heartbreaking. Honestly, I don't think I can look again. We all get caught up in our lives and it's never to late to ask for help, never.
My heart is breaking for the people of Haiti.
I've been thinking about you all week. It's all just so...
Speechless.
I have a friend who adopted from GLA - I posted an email I got from her on my own blog...you might like to see it: http://www.magpiemusing.com/2010/01/haiti-heavy-heart.html
Thanks for your post.
I'm watching national news RIGHT NOW seeing Haitian kids getting off a plane and it makes me think of you ... This is so cool...
Ummmm....I miss you when you are gone.
Now I know where I will give my money.
Those photos are just...
thank you
My God, this post made me very emotional. Of course, I'm donating, to SOS Children's Village. I wish there was more I could do. When I can I will send clothes, etc. Whatever I can. To adopt would be a beautiful thing. If I could afford it. too many 'ifs' but really, my heart is bleeding for the people of Haiti. That first picture of you and baby... too beautiful for words. I can't imagine your emotions, being there, holding her, feeling... overwhelming, I'm sure. I don't want any child to ever suffer, feel hunger, pain, sadness. That breaks my heart, daily.
I saw something about GLA on the news, then felt like I wanted to check your blog and saw the connection. I've been reading their updates and exploring their site. I wanted to donate to them and reading your recommendation gave me the confidence to do it.
What a lovely post. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for going there and being there and sharing so much love. I do wish there was more to be done than just watch, and yes, send funds. I am hopeful the funds will keep coming and Haiti will find itself back on its feet soon.
Your pictures speak a thousand words and bring a tear to my eye. I have a good friend that is going to Haiti in three weeks to support an orphanage there, I am so proud to know him.
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